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Love is not enough.

I thought I could fix him. I remember thinking on so many occasions when my husband was in active addition that if he loved me he’d quit using, or if he really loved our family than the wouldn’t steal from the kids, or pawn things, or do any of the other maddening things that oneContinue Reading “Love is not enough.”

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What if rehab doesn’t fix everything?

99.9% of people think that you send your loved one to rehab and they come back ‘fixed’. Life will just be sunshine and rainbows….right?  If they stop ____ then life will be _____ – I don’t blame them – I did too! See, when he was using, he was never home. But when he cameContinue Reading “What if rehab doesn’t fix everything?”

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Self worth – What’s your price tag?

Where’s the first place you go when you need to shop? Stay with me here – the first place I go when I shop is the clearance rack. I like to find bargains and deals. I’ve bought things that I didn’t necessarily like, or fit particularly well (i.e. too big/small) because they didn’t have myContinue Reading “Self worth – What’s your price tag?”

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You can detach without leaving

Detach – it’s not really a concrete thing… I knew the people in the rooms would tell me to detach. Detach with love they’d say. Focus on you. Repeat the Serenity Prayer and realize the only thing you have the ability to change is yourself. It was all so abstract though.  I just wanted someoneContinue Reading “You can detach without leaving”

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Healing wounds from the past

Healing wounds from the past can be tricky. Do you have issues and baggage from your years gone by?  Those dang wounds will come sneaking up on you sometimes and when you least expect it – they can reach up and try to pull you back. I’ve had the opportunity to explore some of myContinue Reading “Healing wounds from the past”

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Time keeps on slippin…

If that song’s stuck in your head now, my apologies! My son dressed himself this morning. Shirt and everything – and it was all right side out and tags in the back.  I had a moment of Holy Crap – he’s practically a grown ass man! I also marked 12 years of being with myContinue Reading “Time keeps on slippin…”

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When you feel like giving up (part 4)

AKA – Betrayal So, we’ve all experienced betrayal at some point.  It could be as simple as your friend picking someone else for the dodge ball game, or as complicated as adultery.  When the rubber hits the road, betrayal sucks. I thought it was the job of my dreams I thought I was being groomedContinue Reading “When you feel like giving up (part 4)”

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When you feel like giving up… (Part 1)

Sometimes you just want to quit. Sometimes that voice in your head that’s screaming at you all those horrid things that she can say – “You’re so stupid”.  “Who are you to think you could ____?”  “You didn’t really think that would work did you?”  The snide laughter that cuts to your core.  Those areContinue Reading “When you feel like giving up… (Part 1)”

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4 things I’ve learned as a mom

Ok, so I have 3 kids, plus 4 stepkids. Yes, you read that correctly.  I called us the ghetto brady bunch for a while.  When you have such a wide array of personalities, backgrounds, not to mention multiple non-custodial parents and you’re trying to keep your shit together, it can be a challenge. Here’s 5Continue Reading “4 things I’ve learned as a mom”