It can be easy to lose yourself and become entangled or enmeshed in the one we love. When you love an addict/alcoholic though, it’s a big problem when you want nothing more than the other person’s happiness, and put that above (or at the expense of) your own happiness. I have gone without to makeContinue Reading “Feel Like You’ve Lost Yourself in Your Relationship? Read this!”
Do you feel like you’re going crazy and you don’t know what’s true anymore? Do you feel like you’re just going and going and not getting anything done? Like you’re spinning your wheels? Like it’s a lot of work, but no fruition? You know what I mean – you’re burning yourself out to take careContinue Reading “When you feel like you’re going crazy…”
Detach – it’s not really a concrete thing… I knew the people in the rooms would tell me to detach. Detach with love they’d say. Focus on you. Repeat the Serenity Prayer and realize the only thing you have the ability to change is yourself. It was all so abstract though. I just wanted someoneContinue Reading “You can detach without leaving”
I’m sure you’ll agree- a woman can hold a resentment. We are built to remember all the things. Our minds take in everything around us. I’m pretty sure my uterus doubles as a homing device, because if someone can’t find something, I can usually tell them where they left it. We carry the mental load,Continue Reading “Resentments”
Codependency is something you hear a lot about in 12 step programs and groups for loved ones of alcoholics/addicts There’s books (Melodie Beatty’s Codependent No More being one of them) written about the subject. How to define codependency, how to determine if you’re codependent, how to “fix” it. It’s been my experience that it’s neverContinue Reading “The love/hate relationship with codependency”
Let’s get back to basics! 2018 for me is going to be about getting back to the basics, and I’d love to share that with you. So many things are WAY more complicated than they really have to be. If you’ve seen any elementary math lately, you know what I mean! There’s more fluffContinue Reading “Getting back to basics : The ABC’s of Recovery”
Healing wounds from the past can be tricky. Do you have issues and baggage from your years gone by? Those dang wounds will come sneaking up on you sometimes and when you least expect it – they can reach up and try to pull you back. I’ve had the opportunity to explore some of myContinue Reading “Healing wounds from the past”
Do you know how it feels to be content?
There’s a reason WHY you keep going. In some cases our why might just be “because I have to”. And that’s legit.
Communication is key – and “I’m fine” is usually bullsh…