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Feel Like You’ve Lost Yourself in Your Relationship? Read this!

It can be easy to lose yourself and become entangled or enmeshed in the one we love. When you love an addict/alcoholic though, it’s a big problem when you want nothing more than the other person’s happiness, and put that above (or at the expense of) your own happiness. I have gone without to makeContinue Reading “Feel Like You’ve Lost Yourself in Your Relationship? Read this!”

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WHY do I spy on my partner?

Why do I spy on my partner? Ah, the joys of being the wife of an addict/alcoholic.  The lies, and deceit, and not sure what to believe. Chasing them, and/or the truth, and sometimes not believing either of them.   In some ways, we are like Magnum PI (am I showing my age here?) andContinue Reading “WHY do I spy on my partner?”

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The love/hate relationship with codependency

Codependency is something you hear a lot about in 12 step programs and groups for loved ones of alcoholics/addicts There’s books (Melodie Beatty’s Codependent No More being one of them) written about the subject. How to define codependency, how to determine if you’re codependent, how to “fix” it. It’s been my experience that it’s neverContinue Reading “The love/hate relationship with codependency”

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Getting back to basics : The ABC’s of Recovery

Let’s get back to basics!   2018 for me is going to be about getting back to the basics, and I’d love to share that with you.  So many things are WAY more complicated than they really have to be.  If you’ve seen any elementary math lately, you know what I mean! There’s more fluffContinue Reading “Getting back to basics : The ABC’s of Recovery”

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Healing wounds from the past

Healing wounds from the past can be tricky. Do you have issues and baggage from your years gone by?  Those dang wounds will come sneaking up on you sometimes and when you least expect it – they can reach up and try to pull you back. I’ve had the opportunity to explore some of myContinue Reading “Healing wounds from the past”

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Indepen-dance

Happy 4th! There’s a bunch of posts about the birth of our nation, and I’m sure there are some that are going to get into the politics of it all…  But I wanted to focus on something a little different. Quick question – When’s the last time you experienced JOY? Joy is an emotion thatContinue Reading “Indepen-dance”

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Getting to the root of it

There are lots of plant references in life. There’s family trees, grass being greener on the other side of the fence, growing like a weed.  You get the picture…  One of the ones that has always been intriguing is “getting to the root of it”. “It” could be anything from a physical issue to mentalContinue Reading “Getting to the root of it”

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Quietly Strong

I’m sure you’ve heard it said – “hurt people, hurt people”. If you’ve been reading my posts for any length of time, you know that shifting out of victim mode is ‘my thing’.  I am a huge proponent of looking at things from another angle so as to gain confidence and power versus sitting onContinue Reading “Quietly Strong”

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Is contentment a thing?

Do you know how it feels to be content?

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How to find yourself (even if you didn’t realize you were lost)

Have you ever sat and asked yourself “who am I”? I’ll bet you can list all kinds of labels – such and such’s mom, so and so’s wife, your career title, the scout parent, the driver, the maid, the cook. You may have even realized you are living some version of someone else’s life –Continue Reading “How to find yourself (even if you didn’t realize you were lost)”