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I thought I could fix him. I remember thinking on so many occasions when my husband was in active addition that if he loved me he’d quit using, or if he really loved our family than the wouldn’t steal from the kids, or pawn things, or do any of the other maddening things that oneContinue Reading “Love is not enough.”
It can be easy to lose yourself and become entangled or enmeshed in the one we love. When you love an addict/alcoholic though, it’s a big problem when you want nothing more than the other person’s happiness, and put that above (or at the expense of) your own happiness. I have gone without to makeContinue Reading “Feel Like You’ve Lost Yourself in Your Relationship? Read this!”
Do you feel like you’re going crazy and you don’t know what’s true anymore? Do you feel like you’re just going and going and not getting anything done? Like you’re spinning your wheels? Like it’s a lot of work, but no fruition? You know what I mean – you’re burning yourself out to take careContinue Reading “When you feel like you’re going crazy…”
Why do I spy on my partner? Ah, the joys of being the wife of an addict/alcoholic. The lies, and deceit, and not sure what to believe. Chasing them, and/or the truth, and sometimes not believing either of them. In some ways, we are like Magnum PI (am I showing my age here?) andContinue Reading “WHY do I spy on my partner?”
I’m sure you’ll agree- a woman can hold a resentment. We are built to remember all the things. Our minds take in everything around us. I’m pretty sure my uterus doubles as a homing device, because if someone can’t find something, I can usually tell them where they left it. We carry the mental load,Continue Reading “Resentments”
Healing wounds from the past can be tricky. Do you have issues and baggage from your years gone by? Those dang wounds will come sneaking up on you sometimes and when you least expect it – they can reach up and try to pull you back. I’ve had the opportunity to explore some of myContinue Reading “Healing wounds from the past”
AKA – Betrayal So, we’ve all experienced betrayal at some point. It could be as simple as your friend picking someone else for the dodge ball game, or as complicated as adultery. When the rubber hits the road, betrayal sucks. I thought it was the job of my dreams I thought I was being groomedContinue Reading “When you feel like giving up (part 4)”
AKA – Addiction is addiction is addiction So, I love me some addicts. And I am one. My drugs of choice are sugar and flour. My first husband took a certain other white substance to addiction, and my current husband is (thank the Good Lord) almost at 5 years clean and sober from drugs andContinue Reading “When you feel like giving up… (Part 3)”
So here I am again, being all vulnerable and junk. Control has been my friend. I just see what needs to be done, and I do it. Not everyone has that skill. In fact, there are some who just sit back and ignore that which needs to be done (think – empty toilet paper roll!!!!)Continue Reading “When you feel like giving up…(part 2)”
Sometimes you just want to quit. Sometimes that voice in your head that’s screaming at you all those horrid things that she can say – “You’re so stupid”. “Who are you to think you could ____?” “You didn’t really think that would work did you?” The snide laughter that cuts to your core. Those areContinue Reading “When you feel like giving up… (Part 1)”
