I thought I could fix him. I remember thinking on so many occasions when my husband was in active addition that if he loved me he’d quit using, or if he really loved our family than the wouldn’t steal from the kids, or pawn things, or do any of the other maddening things that oneContinue Reading “Love is not enough.”
Do you feel like you’re going crazy and you don’t know what’s true anymore? Do you feel like you’re just going and going and not getting anything done? Like you’re spinning your wheels? Like it’s a lot of work, but no fruition? You know what I mean – you’re burning yourself out to take careContinue Reading “When you feel like you’re going crazy…”
Why do I spy on my partner? Ah, the joys of being the wife of an addict/alcoholic. The lies, and deceit, and not sure what to believe. Chasing them, and/or the truth, and sometimes not believing either of them. In some ways, we are like Magnum PI (am I showing my age here?) andContinue Reading “WHY do I spy on my partner?”
Detach – it’s not really a concrete thing… I knew the people in the rooms would tell me to detach. Detach with love they’d say. Focus on you. Repeat the Serenity Prayer and realize the only thing you have the ability to change is yourself. It was all so abstract though. I just wanted someoneContinue Reading “You can detach without leaving”
Healing wounds from the past can be tricky. Do you have issues and baggage from your years gone by? Those dang wounds will come sneaking up on you sometimes and when you least expect it – they can reach up and try to pull you back. I’ve had the opportunity to explore some of myContinue Reading “Healing wounds from the past”
There are lots of plant references in life. There’s family trees, grass being greener on the other side of the fence, growing like a weed. You get the picture… One of the ones that has always been intriguing is “getting to the root of it”. “It” could be anything from a physical issue to mentalContinue Reading “Getting to the root of it”
I’m sure you’ve heard it said – “hurt people, hurt people”. If you’ve been reading my posts for any length of time, you know that shifting out of victim mode is ‘my thing’. I am a huge proponent of looking at things from another angle so as to gain confidence and power versus sitting onContinue Reading “Quietly Strong”
Do you know how it feels to be content?
Have you ever sat and asked yourself “who am I”? I’ll bet you can list all kinds of labels – such and such’s mom, so and so’s wife, your career title, the scout parent, the driver, the maid, the cook. You may have even realized you are living some version of someone else’s life –Continue Reading “How to find yourself (even if you didn’t realize you were lost)”
There’s a reason WHY you keep going. In some cases our why might just be “because I have to”. And that’s legit.