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Characteristics of Codependency

Characteristics of Codependency Addiction doesn’t discriminate, neither does codependency or feelings of unworthiness / not being good enough and wanting to lose yourself (even if it’s unconsciously) in others.  I’m on the journey too – just a few steps ahead since my hubs has 6 years clean. I’d say the last 3 years I’ve beenContinue Reading “Characteristics of Codependency”

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Who helps YOU?

As wives and mothers, we have an expectation that we can “handle it”.   It would seem that those around us know that as well. We are the glue that keeps our households running. We are the doers of all of the things – laundry, dinner, homework, appointments, job/career, kids… it’s exhausting.  Have you seenContinue Reading “Who helps YOU?”

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Self worth – What’s your price tag?

Where’s the first place you go when you need to shop? Stay with me here – the first place I go when I shop is the clearance rack. I like to find bargains and deals. I’ve bought things that I didn’t necessarily like, or fit particularly well (i.e. too big/small) because they didn’t have myContinue Reading “Self worth – What’s your price tag?”

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You can detach without leaving

Detach – it’s not really a concrete thing… I knew the people in the rooms would tell me to detach. Detach with love they’d say. Focus on you. Repeat the Serenity Prayer and realize the only thing you have the ability to change is yourself. It was all so abstract though.  I just wanted someoneContinue Reading “You can detach without leaving”

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Resentments

I’m sure you’ll agree- a woman can hold a resentment.   We are built to remember all the things.  Our minds take in everything around us.  I’m pretty sure my uterus doubles as a homing device, because if someone can’t find something, I can usually tell them where they left it. We carry the mental load,Continue Reading “Resentments”

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The love/hate relationship with codependency

Codependency is something you hear a lot about in 12 step programs and groups for loved ones of alcoholics/addicts There’s books (Melodie Beatty’s Codependent No More being one of them) written about the subject. How to define codependency, how to determine if you’re codependent, how to “fix” it. It’s been my experience that it’s neverContinue Reading “The love/hate relationship with codependency”

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Getting back to basics : The ABC’s of Recovery

Let’s get back to basics!   2018 for me is going to be about getting back to the basics, and I’d love to share that with you.  We’ve made so many things way more complicated than they really have to be.  If you’ve seen any elementary math lately, you know what I mean! There’s moreContinue Reading “Getting back to basics : The ABC’s of Recovery”

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Transition through the mushy place

A transition through the mushy place isn’t easy – but it is simple. What’s the mushy place, you ask? I believe there’s a place when the caterpillar transitions – it stops ‘being’ a caterpillar and yet isn’t a butterfly either. I imagine it being a mushy place – where it’s both a caterpillar and aContinue Reading “Transition through the mushy place”

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When you feel like giving up (part 4)

AKA – Betrayal So, we’ve all experienced betrayal at some point.  It could be as simple as your friend picking someone else for the dodge ball game, or as complicated as adultery.  When the rubber hits the road, betrayal sucks. I thought it was the job of my dreams I thought I was being groomedContinue Reading “When you feel like giving up (part 4)”

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When you feel like giving up… (Part 1)

Sometimes you just want to quit. Sometimes that voice in your head that’s screaming at you all those horrid things that she can say – “You’re so stupid”.  “Who are you to think you could ____?”  “You didn’t really think that would work did you?”  The snide laughter that cuts to your core.  Those areContinue Reading “When you feel like giving up… (Part 1)”