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People Pleaser? or Codependent?

What’s the difference between people pleasing and codependency?  A lot of times, people will say they are a people pleaser, but they don’t necessarily identify as being codependent. In my research, and in my life experience, I have found there is no difference. It’s just a little nicer way to say it when you say “i’mContinue Reading “People Pleaser? or Codependent?”

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Love is not enough.

I thought I could fix him. I remember thinking on so many occasions when my husband was in active addition that if he loved me he’d quit using, or if he really loved our family than the wouldn’t steal from the kids, or pawn things, or do any of the other maddening things that oneContinue Reading “Love is not enough.”

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When you feel like you’re going crazy…

Do you feel like you’re going crazy and you don’t know what’s true anymore?  Do you feel like you’re just going and going and not getting anything done? Like you’re spinning your wheels? Like it’s a lot of work, but no fruition? You know what I mean – you’re burning yourself out to take careContinue Reading “When you feel like you’re going crazy…”

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WHY do I spy on my partner?

Why do I spy on my partner? Ah, the joys of being the wife of an addict/alcoholic.  The lies, and deceit, and not sure what to believe. Chasing them, and/or the truth, and sometimes not believing either of them.   In some ways, we are like Magnum PI (am I showing my age here?) andContinue Reading “WHY do I spy on my partner?”

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Indepen-dance

Happy 4th! There’s a bunch of posts about the birth of our nation, and I’m sure there are some that are going to get into the politics of it all…  But I wanted to focus on something a little different. Quick question – When’s the last time you experienced JOY? Joy is an emotion thatContinue Reading “Indepen-dance”

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3 things to remember when you’re in a funk

I’ll be the first to admit when I’m cranky. Sometimes it’s between moon cycles, sometimes it’s seasons of the year, sometimes it’s seasons of life in general. There’s just something about that ‘in between’ space that feels super uncomfortable.  It can take time to get used to changes. Transitions can be rough. Any time there is aContinue Reading “3 things to remember when you’re in a funk”

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Getting to the root of it

There are lots of plant references in life. There’s family trees, grass being greener on the other side of the fence, growing like a weed.  You get the picture…  One of the ones that has always been intriguing is “getting to the root of it”. “It” could be anything from a physical issue to mentalContinue Reading “Getting to the root of it”

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Quietly Strong

I’m sure you’ve heard it said – “hurt people, hurt people”. If you’ve been reading my posts for any length of time, you know that shifting out of victim mode is ‘my thing’.  I am a huge proponent of looking at things from another angle so as to gain confidence and power versus sitting onContinue Reading “Quietly Strong”

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Is contentment a thing?

Do you know how it feels to be content?

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How to find yourself (even if you didn’t realize you were lost)

Have you ever sat and asked yourself “who am I”? I’ll bet you can list all kinds of labels – such and such’s mom, so and so’s wife, your career title, the scout parent, the driver, the maid, the cook. You may have even realized you are living some version of someone else’s life –Continue Reading “How to find yourself (even if you didn’t realize you were lost)”