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Love is not enough.

I thought I could fix him. I remember thinking on so many occasions when my husband was in active addition that if he loved me he’d quit using, or if he really loved our family than the wouldn’t steal from the kids, or pawn things, or do any of the other maddening things that oneContinue Reading “Love is not enough.”

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When you feel like you’re going crazy…

Do you feel like you’re going crazy and you don’t know what’s true anymore?  Do you feel like you’re just going and going and not getting anything done? Like you’re spinning your wheels? Like it’s a lot of work, but no fruition? You know what I mean – you’re burning yourself out to take careContinue Reading “When you feel like you’re going crazy…”

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WHY do I spy on my partner?

Why do I spy on my partner? Ah, the joys of being the wife of an addict/alcoholic.  The lies, and deceit, and not sure what to believe. Chasing them, and/or the truth, and sometimes not believing either of them.   In some ways, we are like Magnum PI (am I showing my age here?) andContinue Reading “WHY do I spy on my partner?”

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Who helps YOU?

As wives and mothers, we have an expectation that we can “handle it”.   It would seem that those around us know that as well. We are the glue that keeps our households running. We are the doers of all of the things – laundry, dinner, homework, appointments, job/career, kids… it’s exhausting.  Have you seenContinue Reading “Who helps YOU?”

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Self worth – What’s your price tag?

Where’s the first place you go when you need to shop? Stay with me here – the first place I go when I shop is the clearance rack. I like to find bargains and deals. I’ve bought things that I didn’t necessarily like, or fit particularly well (i.e. too big/small) because they didn’t have myContinue Reading “Self worth – What’s your price tag?”

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You can detach without leaving

Detach – it’s not really a concrete thing… I knew the people in the rooms would tell me to detach. Detach with love they’d say. Focus on you. Repeat the Serenity Prayer and realize the only thing you have the ability to change is yourself. It was all so abstract though.  I just wanted someoneContinue Reading “You can detach without leaving”

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Resentments

I’m sure you’ll agree- a woman can hold a resentment.   We are built to remember all the things.  Our minds take in everything around us.  I’m pretty sure my uterus doubles as a homing device, because if someone can’t find something, I can usually tell them where they left it. We carry the mental load,Continue Reading “Resentments”

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Healing wounds from the past

Healing wounds from the past can be tricky. Do you have issues and baggage from your years gone by?  Those dang wounds will come sneaking up on you sometimes and when you least expect it – they can reach up and try to pull you back. I’ve had the opportunity to explore some of myContinue Reading “Healing wounds from the past”

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Transition through the mushy place

A transition through the mushy place isn’t easy – but it is simple. What’s the mushy place, you ask? I believe there’s a place when the caterpillar transitions – it stops ‘being’ a caterpillar and yet isn’t a butterfly either. I imagine it being a mushy place – where it’s both a caterpillar and aContinue Reading “Transition through the mushy place”

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Indepen-dance

Happy 4th! There’s a bunch of posts about the birth of our nation, and I’m sure there are some that are going to get into the politics of it all…  But I wanted to focus on something a little different. Quick question – When’s the last time you experienced JOY? Joy is an emotion thatContinue Reading “Indepen-dance”